So I’m 17-years old.
Just drove my date home after the second or third date.
I really like this gal.
To be honest. I’d had my eye on her for a while, but she was sort of taken at the time. So, I patiently waited.
I didn’t know it, but she had her eye on me all the while too.
We never even spoke or acknowledged we saw each other ever before.
Guess we were secretly sneakin’ peaks and neither of us ever got caught.
Anyway, through a story I’ll tell some other time, we eventually wound up on a date.
And yet another.
I think it was maybe the 3rd date, were parked out front of her place in my green Chevy Nova.
We’re gettin’ ready to call it a night, and suddenly this incredible awkwardness is way obvious.
I felt it.
She felt it.
We’re both wondering.
“Should I kiss her?”
“Will he kiss me?”
I want to, but a bit apprehensive.
She wanted me to, but didn’t know how to go for it or be too forward.
We’re talkin’ old school high –school days, right?
The heaviness was getting thick in the old Chevy.
Now, before I tell you what happened that night, which is pretty amazing…
there’s a songwriting analogy to be had here.
It’s got to do with co-writing.
It’s a lot like that scene I just described.
No, you ain’t moving in for a kiss on your co-writer, but in a literal sense, yawl want to make some music together.
Problem is, you both might feel a bit vulnerable…
A bit awkward…
A little apprehensive in letting your guard down and show your songwriting colors.
What if he/she thinks I suck?
What if I make the first move and come up with the world’s stupidest idea or spew nothing but cliché’s?
What if I start to sing a line, and sound like the Beagle next door?
What will this person think of me?
Before you know it…
You feel it.
They feel it.
You both know you both feel it.
And before long, you are fidgeting your feet, looking at carpet snags, clicking a pen, and doing everything but saying…
So, some weather we’re having, huh?
The more you focus on the awkwardness, the thicker it gets.
But, you got together to write a tune, right?
And it’s going absolutely NOWHERE!
So, what do you do?
There is an answer which releases that pressure. Not only that, there’s a good chance once you do it, you’ll start popping ideas out.
And it is so easy to do.
No more awkward dates with a co-writer.
And, if you do it, you’ll take the lead and earn respect.
And, this isn’t limited to just newbie writers. Sometimes seasoned writers stall out for other reasons. This tip works for them too.
Find out what to do, plus 30+ more co-writing tips you’ll pick up on in November’s Tune Booster.
Now, back to my teenage date?
I laid a sloppy kiss on her, we kept dating, I married her, had a wonderful family, we’ve crafted our life to spend our days working together.
And, as I type this? She’s out running errands with plans to have lunch together in a bit.
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